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how to cut the umbilical cord?

my b/f has grown up with a verbally abusive mom, i have been with him 3 years and everyday she degrades him and says horrible things to him...he is 20 and jobless so this just fuels her fire and gives you more horrible things to say...i tell him get a job and leave and he agrees but dosent do it...she has kicked him out for no reason but he always goes back...its like he hates her but cant leave...shes a achohlic and a horrible person i cut my relationship with her but he just wont leave...i finally told him today when hes going to cut his umbilical cord and he just dosent get it...i love him and he is so great to me, we just have this one huge problem she is horrible to him and managed to brain wash him into staying and not better himself. what can i do? breaking up is not a option...i just want him to see what i see...i want him to stick up for his self and leave even if it meens sleeping in his friend garage for awhile...why would anyone want to stay? yea i figured that after i posted it lol...you can answer it or not i know it dosent go here so yea...you dont have to answer it. i'm 20 and still live at home. im saving money

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1. Your question has nothing to do with marriage & divorce.
2. he has no where else to go...he needs to find a job and stand on his own two feet..He is 20 afterall and still lives at home??? They should raise some questions for you in you relationship.
3. When/If he gets ready, he will find employment and move out. Until he is ready there is nothing you can do to change his current situation.
4. ok, time to pull the rosy colored glasses off your face... he is jobless - because he wants to be, he is unmotivated, because he wants to be...he lives at home, because he doesn't have to be responsible...and he likes it that way... how his mom treats him doesn't matter...know why she kicked him out? Cuz she is sick and tired of him not doing anything with his life... stop blaming his mother...HE'S the problem...if it was really his mom, he'd be out of there in a heartbeat...stop giving him just another excuse to not get his life together...
5. I toltally understand your question. I am in a similar situation, except it's my Dad im stuck with. My Dad does all the things you said your bf's mom does. And my bf tries to help me out, but I just cant leave for some reason. It's like as if Im attached to family. :( Maybe ur bf just feels as if he has to respect his mom, nomatter how bad she treats him. I feel that way with my Dad. But now that he's 20, he needs to realize that he cant mop around in the past and the present and he needs to man up and prove his mom wrong. And you should stay supportive through all this. It's emotionally confusing and wrecking, but it's worth it. Good luck sweetie!
6. My mom was horrible and brain washed me and still I was able to move out at 18, get a job and be successful. I agree with "he's unmotivated...". If he really wanted to leave he would, but there's something holding him back and it's not his mom. If I were you, give him some time and ask him what's holding him back.
7. You are twenty so I'll share a bit of knowledge with you. You cannot make a man do something that he's not willing to do. He'll either regret you later on or he will not do it. Sounds like your boyfreind doesn't have a problem in cutting the ties to his mom, sounds as if he has low self esteem about himself. Whatever his problem is, you cannot get him to see it, until he wants to see it and do something about it. If you are to continue being the girlfriend, there's no need in you putting more pressure on him to cut the cord with his mom. Eventually, he'll cut you out over his mother. Be supportive of your man and encourage him by letting him know that he is someone special to you and to himself. At this point that is all that you can do. When he does cut the ties, continue being supportive and not judgmental of his mom. She also has a problem...