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Cut the umbilical cord already!!?

My fiance's mother is way beyond controlling. Happily for me however over the past few years my boyfriend has tried to cut the umbillical cord as much as possible. He is 35 yrs old so it can really be ANNOYING!! She visits him at work just to give him guilt trips about how unsatisfied she is with his choice of wife, how we are raising our three children, how our finances are not good enough, how she is dissapointed that I am pregnant again ( we are happy) and this and that. However when she talks to me she is as sweet as pie (fake) - She complanes and nags as much as she breaths and I know it is very emmotionally and physically draining on him. He calls me at least once a day and says..."mom stopped by today" he sounds so tired. I really just want to call her up and tell her that if she doesn't have anything positive to add to their conversations then maybe they shouldn't talk as much because its very hard on him. We would like to raise our own family now any suggestions?

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1. He needs to step up and let his mom know that she has overstepped her boundries...that while he loves her dearly, he is now an adult, and would appreciate her keeping her comments about his life to herself....
2. I think it's kinda crappy on his part that he's telling you all this stuff she's saying. it makes him look bad because he's not standing up for you either. He needs to deal with his own mother, don't get involved.
3. Just make sure your BF/hubby/whatever knows how much she upsets you, and ask him to understand that you need to be free of her nagging influence.
4. Call mom and tell her what's going on for the sake of your husband! It's him spending the rest of his life with you not her!
5. I think you're being a bit too harsh on her. She just wants whats best for her son. Most women are gonna be like that. I wouldn't be surprised if you turned out like that to one of your kids when you get older. Just remember that its not just his mom, its most women that act like that :/
6. O Lord!!! He needs to decide who he wants to spend the rest of his life with..You or Mommy!! When you get married you are suppose to cut your parents off. As in you guys are your own family now. He needs to know you are serious as well. Go to a Hotel or something until he figures it out!
7. i wud love to be in ur position! i am having the same problem as u except i'm 15 so if i'm rude to his mother i won't be able to see him outside school. tell her that she is controlling her son and that she is making his (otherwise happy) life miserable. tell her that if she doesn't stop she won't be able to see her grand kids seeing as she doesn't approve of how ur bringing them up or wud that be going too far?
8. I have a 22 yr old son and I have to admit I was a bit controlling like that and i learned after my son sat me down and said he loved me but he loves her also and that will not change I can choose to be in their life or out of it it would be my choice. They made it clear they love me and would like me part of it only if I let them live their problems and lives and I just enjoy them so I have done so and never been happier that they had that talk with me... Don't get me wrong I didn't leave happy that very moment but I did come around nothing is more important then family in the end.....
9. Girl it is time for you to step in...men tend to have a special bond to their mothers and won't do anything to disappoint them.. .even if they are grown...I would let her know that she had her chance at raising kids and if she is dissatisfied with how he turned out....it is her fault. It is your (and his) turn now. As far as your finances go... that is absolutly none of her business (unless you are borrowing money from her). I agree that it is time for her to butt out!
10. Well i feel like it's is your husband and your business on how to raise your family in your house hold.The problem is she still thinks her son still a boy if he chose you and ask you to marry him then she need to let it go if his heart is with you then why is she so worried?I think you should invite his mother over for a dinner ,all of you sit down and talk about all of the problem and you stand up for your self and express how you feel long as you hold it in she will continue to be in control.And be the one being bossy!
11. Don't be afraid of hurting her feelings. This is your husband, your children...your family. "Mom" needs to butt out and by all means tell her so, if you haven't already. We're in a time when it seems like communication has gone out the door. Her opinion is her's. You are entitled to yours as well. You can tell her how you feel (without witchiness), and stand your ground. You are woman......Let us hear you roar.
12. He needs to reassure his mother that he will always love her but he has to tell her that he is a grown man now and she has to allow him to make his own choices.He also needs to tell her that 'guilt trips' are not going to work and aren't appreciated. Maybe it will go better all the way around if you point out that she can be grandsma now and do grandma things but her days of raising a child of her own are over.